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College Essays Childhood To Adulthood

With school’s final bell now behind us, students entering their final year of high school are likely focused on more tantalizing summer plans than beginning work on their Common Application essay.  And while earning some cash, sitting by the pool, and hanging out with friends are higher up on the docket at the moment, we encourage soon-to-be seniors to carve out a few moments during these laid back months to begin the surprisingly time-consuming topic selection/pre-writing portion of the essay process.  Trust us – come fall, you’ll thank yourself, especially as senior year coursework and college applications begin to pile up.

The five Common App topics, revamped in 2013, will stay the same for the 2014-15 admissions cycle.  Ultimately, you will have to choose one topic and compose a 650-word-or-less essay that wins the hearts and minds of college admissions officers.  Below, we offer some thoughts about each prompt and how to decide which one will best enable you to share a meaningful and revealing story that will strengthen and personalize your application.

Recount an incident or time when you experienced failure.  How did it affect you, and what lessons did you learn?

Conflict is so often at the center of a great story.  It is a chance for you to write a story where you are not the hero, at least in a traditional, conquering sense.  In a world of flattering selfies, exaggerated resumes, and a top 20 hit that repeats the phrase “I’m the man” 38 times, it can be refreshing to hear someone willingly talk about their shortcomings and less proud moments.  Subsequent growth in the wake of failure can give insight into your character, resilience, and depth.  In brainstorming this one, reflect on your life’s setbacks and whether they led to maturation or enlightenment.  Also try starting with periods of growth in your life, and work backward to what rejections/disappointment/failures led to your personal development.

Reflect on a time when you challenged a belief or idea.  What prompted you to act?  Would you make the same decision again?

This one sounds rather grand as though colleges expect you to have led a movement of civil disobedience while bringing an imperialist colonial empire to its knees—all at the ripe age of eighteen!  Fear not, in literary terms, this is the Society vs. The Individual type of conflict and it needn’t take place on a grand stage.  Standing up to peer pressure, going against a family tradition, taking part in a local protest, or not following a directive you found to be immoral or unjust are just a few of the “real life” examples that can make for a gripping storyline.

Describe a place or environment where you are perfectly content.  What do you do or experience there, and why is it meaningful to you?

Contentment is not necessarily a great starting point for a story that will keep readers on the edge of their seats.  Traditionally, stories that start out as seemingly Utopian only become interesting when the gilded surface is slowly chipped away and the darker core emerges (i.e. The Giver, The Truman Show, Brave New World, etc.).  That being said, if this prompt strikes a chord with you, start prewriting to ensure that your story contains interesting layers and nuances, and is not just a blissful account of how much you enjoy killing zombies in Call of Duty.

Discuss an accomplishment or event, formal or informal, that marked your transition from childhood to adulthood within your culture, community, or family.

Details of your bar mitzvah, facial hair growth, or early romantic experiences should be left on the cutting room floor (if there happens to be a pun anywhere in there, it is unintended).  Like the previous prompt about contentment, this isn’t one to force.  If a meaningful story of your own metamorphosis from childhood to adulthood jumps out at you then delve right in.  Otherwise, pass this one over.

Some students have a background or story that is so central to their identity that they believe their application would be incomplete without it.  If this sounds like you, then please share your story.  

This is the most broad topic and the most direct remnant of the now defunct “your choice” essay.  Identity is a wide-sweeping concept.  If you have a great story to tell that doesn’t fit the other four prompts, our advice is to mold your tale to fit this category.  Here you are essentially being asked to tell the admissions committee the story from your life that most defines you.  Take advantage of this expansive umbrella!

We close with a bit of advice from our Simple Truths about the College Essay blog for tips on the writing process: Writing an essay that is compelling doesn’t mean that you need to have wrestled a puma, grown up in a cult, or discovered a new galaxy at age seven.  A great college essay can take place on a grand stage but it can just as effectively take place in everyday life.  There is a ready supply of drama, tension, and conflict in the course of a typical day.  Over the course of your life you have undoubtedly had experiences that constitute worthy topics.  Think it over.  Talk to family and friends.  Your compelling story will emerge.

Dave has over a decade of professional experience that includes work as a teacher, high school administrator, college professor, and independent education consultant. He is a co-author of the book The Enlightened College Applicant: A New Approach to the Search and Admissions Process (Rowman & Littlefield, 2016).

"You want to dye your head WHAT?" she screeched. I glanced around the tiled kitchen floor and shuffled nervously, avoiding my mother's incredulous stare, but I was resolute. I took a deep breath to calm my fluttering nerves and tried one more time. "Teal." This decision wasn't arbitrary. I had done months of intense research, carrying several reference pictures with me to my hairdresser after practically interrogating her and countless others about the procedure, aftercare, and upkeep. The process itself was an ordeal; bleaching my jet-black hair to a platinum blonde took several stinging attempts, and the teal dye used afterward managed to get itself all over my clothes and skin. But, somehow, after hours of persuasion and scalp pain, it was done.

As soon as I walked out of the salon, though, I received looks of ridicule and sneering from passing strangers, the first showings of mockery that I soon learned to endure alongside jeers like: “When did you fall into a pit of radioactive goo?” “Who forgot to clean up their crayon box?” and (my personal favorite) "Green Lantern's in the house!" I was a bit unnerved; I had expected absolute, fawning adoration for my rebellious antics. But after a while I learned to take it all in stride, laughing along with them or firing back my own retorts. Some of the taunting even improved my mood and self-confidence. No longer did I shrink back from assaulting stares or accusing fingers. My hair was shield, gauntlet, and sword all at once. In time the compliments came too, brightening the days I was caught without an umbrella and the rain would begin to wash the vivid blues out of my hair.

As a target of nearly constant needling and scorn, I started to grasp how much appearances affect our perceptions of others. I'm not as quick now to smirk at a stranger's poor outfit choices or gawk at a bad haircut. I began to question the unnecessary yet routine criticism of daily life that I was previously blind to. Why make a day harder than it needed to be? I found no point in making others' even more burdensome. I made it my goal to give at least three genuine compliments a day, beginning with my immediate family and eventually reaching out to other students.  Before I realized it, this fight soon crept into every part of my life: I found myself defending strangers in the mall when my friends would poke fun at their looks, arguing in theology classes that what a women wears should not determine how she is treated or if she warranted harassment, and writing public presentations and papers on how mass media and social expectations can crush the self-esteem of countless girls and women around the nation.

Although my hair might be a tiny bit damaged from one (or several) rounds of harsh bleaching, I don't regret dyeing it at all. That summer, the quiet, well-mannered, courteous girl I was transformed into the self-confident character I still am today, whether my hair decides to show it or not.

Anonymous Student. "Prompt #5: Transition from Childhood to Adulthood" Study Notes, LLC., 11 Nov. 2015. Web. 10 Mar. 2018. <>.